Learning to Ask - TréCreative Tips&Tricks
What many of you might not know is I too was a bride not too long ago! When it comes to planning a wedding, I'll admit I tried doing most things on my own! I wanted to be the one making all the decisions, the decorations, and running all the errands. It was really hard for me to let others serve me because I didn't want to burden them with extra tasks I needed done. Looking back I realize that this was definitely a mistake, especially when juggling planning a wedding, finishing school, and two jobs!
For some brides it is easy and natural to ask for help and advice, yet for others it feels awkward and uncomfortable to ask for a helping hand. I tend to be more of the latter group, and it worked well up until a few weeks before the wedding when the big "to do" list was still looming over my head. I learned very quickly I couldn't do everything on my own and that I needed to ask for help!
We got married in March during my spring break right before I graduated from Chico State. It became fairly overwhelming realizing that as the day approached that there were so many puzzle pieces that still needed to be fit into place to make the whole day a success. From one bride to another, I'm here to say it's okay to ask for help!
Your wedding is one of the biggest days in your life and you would be surprised how many people are willing and WANTING to help you, all you need to do is ask. This week's edition of TréCreative Tips&Tricks is all about asking for help. It can be as small as asking someone to go pick up your centerpieces or picking up the linens or other rentals so you don't have to do.
Personally, the day before our wedding we had a friend of Stephen's mom drive up to Paradise to pick up the extra flowers for centerpieces we had ordered. This friend we barely knew, yet she was willing to take a simple task off our hands and help out. I was planning on picking up the flowers myself, but Stephen's mom insisted she had it under control and I am SO thankful. It was this and many other little instances where people stepped in to help that I am so thankful for.
If you're stressing about how the wedding day will come together, sit down and make a list of the tasks you still need completed and then "outsource" as many as possible. Take the list to friends, family or your wedding coordinator and say "Would you help me by taking care of one (or more) of these things"? After that ask them, "Do you know of anyone else who could help do one of these things?" You'll be surprised how fast that to-do list will shrink!
We've talked with so many bride and grooms just weeks before the wedding and can often see stress written all over their faces. Divide and concur the tasks with others or hire someone do some of those last minute tasks for you such as a wedding coordinator. In all the weddings we have done, not one of our couples has said they regretted spending a little extra to have a coordinator ensure the day was stress free and enjoyable!!
The week of your wedding should be enjoyed, every minute of it. You're being reunited with family and friends, coming into town from all over and it's time to soak it all in! Learn from my mistakes and do not be afraid to ask for help! You're getting married after all, it's going to be AMAZING! Friends, family and others will go great distances to help you have a happy day, all you have to do is ask!